February is the month of love, and as I write this Valentine’s Day is tomorrow. I thought this would be a perfect time to talk about Love; real love; not the kind we see in Hollywood, but the kind of love we want for the most important people in our lives.
A number of years ago T.D. Jakes wrote a bestselling book Woman Thou Art Loosed! Healing the Wounds of the Past. I must confess I have never read the book but I found a quote from that book so compelling I want to share it with you. He says:
If you are looking for someone to be your everything, don’t look around, look up! God is the only One who can be everything. By expecting perfection from the flesh, you ask more out of someone else than what you can provide yourself. To be married is to have a partner: someone who is not always there or always on target or always anything! On the other hand, should you ever get in trouble and you don’t know who to look to for help, you can count on your partner! It is to have someone to curl up against when the world seems cold and life uncertain. It is having someone who is as concerned as you are when your children are ill. It is having a hand that keeps checking your forehead when you aren’t well. To be married is to have someone’s shoulder to cry on as they lower your parent’s body into the ground. It is wrapping wrinkled knees in warm blankets and giggling without teeth! To the person you marry you are saying, “When my time comes to leave this world and the chill of eternity blows away my birthdays and my future stands still in the night; it’s your face I want to kiss good-bye. It is your hand I want to squeeze as I slip from time into eternity. As the curtain closes on all I have attempted to do and be; I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered; Not what I looked like. Not what I did or how much money I made. Not even how talented I was. I want to look into the teary eyes of someone who loved me and see; I mattered!
Aren’t those powerful words? That is what I want most for those who are nearest and dearest to me and that means I will have to make the effort to be involved in their lives in meaningful ways. Sometimes I will be inconvenienced. Oftentimes I will have to put on hold what I think and what I want because the relationship is more important. That’s what true love is all about!
See You Sunday, Steve